Lesson #3: What Other People Think And Say About You Is None Of Your Business
I grew up believing that what other people thought about me was my responsibility. So when someone didn't like me or didn't want to be my friend, I took it horribly personally, and believed that...
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Lesson #2: Dropping The "Should" Makes Life Happy
At forty years old, I would like to think I have the wisdom, knowledge, and insight to say what my life should look like, how others should act, and how the world should look. Unfortunately, I have...
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Lesson #1: Seek Not To Change The World, But To Change Your Mind About The World
I have shared on this blog and in "Absolutely Should-less" that there was a time in my life I struggled with crippling depression. I believed that it was up to certain people and situations to change...
View Article40 Lessons Of 40: #11-20
Why 40 Lessons of 40? Because I turned 40-years-old on April 25th, and have found that many approach the gift of aging with fear and shame. These are lessons I have learned in forty years that helped...
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40 Lessons Of 40: #1-#10
Aging. We are all going to do it no matter who we are, where we live, or what we believe. Yet I have found there is much intense fear and shame around the most human thing we can possibly do. I...
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Come to "Relating" with Damon and Truett in NYC!
**Tomorrow, Tuesday May 24th, at 53 Christopher Street, 10pm**I am so excited to be hosting this monthly event in the West Village of Manhattan. We have international sex expert Rocky LaBarre, one of...
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The L Train Suicides
Residents of the Williamsburg neighborhood of Brooklyn depend on the L train as the primary mode of transportation between our little nook and Manhattan. We are often frustrated and flummoxed by the...
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What Is Integrity?
What is integrity? During my 40 Lessons of 40 series earlier this year I frequently discussed integrity as a goal of living with more balance, acceptance, and peace. Yet many afterward requested I go...
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The Tweeting Of Blame
"We are always paid for our suspicion by finding what we suspect."- David Henry Thoreau"If you point out the errors of your brother's ego you must be seeing through yours"-A Course In MiraclesYou may...
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Relating With The Stonewall Riot Survivors!
Relating with Damon and Truett June 29th, 53 Christopher Street6:30pmJerry Hoose and Tommy Schmidt were there on June 28th, 1969 at the historic Stonewall riots. Now, over 40 years later, Jerry and...
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Before You Rush To The Altar: The Five Secrets Of Successful Relationships
New York State passed a historic victory for gay/lesbian couples on June 24th, 2011, allowing same-sex couples to marry and enjoy equal legal rights as heterosexuals. This is a profound political...
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"Relating" With Author Justin Luke!
Wednesday, July 27th, at Stonewall Inn (53 Christopher Street) at 10pmCome meet the New York writer everybody is talking about. Justin Luke will be Damon and Truett's special guest on Relating. Justin...
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Swinging From The Debt Ceiling: The Art and Skill Of Compromise
Like most people, I have been carefully watching the confrontations and controversy unfolding in Washington D.C. as the American economy has been on the verge of what news sources called "a total...
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Changes Ahead...
If there is one thing that ever stays the same it is change. If there's a second thing that stays the same, it's the perspective that things "should" be the way they used to be. And if there's a...
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Rational Polyamory
I am so thrilled to be a guest speaker at the monthly Open Love NYC Discussion Group this Tuesday, September 27, from 7:30-9:30. The topic is "Rational Polyamory" and reflects my growing interest in...
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Best Holiday Ever!
This marks the fifteenth year I have been working in the the mental health profession. The one thing that I have seen remain constant from year to year is the amount of stress that takes place during...
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YOU Are Enough!!
I recently had the good fortune to spend time with a five-month-old child. He was patient, calm, loving, totally open to giving and receiving kindness and affection. He did not have to be told that...
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FREE Rational Relating Workshop Monday April 23rd
You've Heard Relationships Covered From Every Perspective...Except This OneRelating with other humans doesn't have to be that complicated! Why do the majority of relationships end in pain, hurt, and...
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It Goes Without Saying Doesn't Go Without Saying
I recently was listening to a podcast during which a discussion ensued about the importance of effective HIV prevention, education tools. and fundraisers like the AIDS Walk. During this dialogue, the...
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Finding The Quality of Equality
History was made this past month when President Obama endorsed same-sex marriage in the United States. There has been much media coverage and celebration of this courageous and progressive statement....
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Why I'm Getting "Lost In Staten Island" on June 28th
Loving someone with a severe mental illness is challenging. But losing that person to suicide is one of the hardest things a family can ever go through. Surviving such a loss takes patience, courage,...
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Summer Readin' Had Me A Blast: Two Ways To Cool Your Soul In The Heat
The Summer of 2012 is going down in my mind as the best ever. Even though, like you, I am witnessing record breaking heat, random acts of violence, an unstable economy, and a nasty political campaign....
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Now I Can "Rationally" Tell You...
I have some AMAZING news to share with you today! But first, some background... After 16 years of working with couples and individuals in various treatment settings, I have come to understand...
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5 Simple Steps For Organizing Your Relationship
It seems that everywhere you look there is someone talking about Marriage Equality. From the Supreme Court to local churches, from Barack Obama to Dan Savage, everyone has a point-of-view on how they...
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Putting the "Quality" Back in Marriage Equality
It seems that everywhere you look there is someone talking about Marriage Equality. From the Supreme Court to local churches, from Barack Obama to Dan Savage, everyone has a point-of-view on how they...
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